_the friendzone_

Its been a lil while i posted something on here. Housekeeping got me all tied up and all. Well, now am here, i guess thats all that matters, huh?
So today, i wanna shed some light on the frienzone*not that we dont know all we need to know about the topic, buh pls allow me feel myself*:D
So i’ve been thinking on what to write since Sunday and the inspiration came; after reading a blog post and hearing a particularly sad case of the friendzone.
Dont lemme bore you any longer.
I present to u *drum rolls thrice*


”It was good while it lasted, ave a good life”

Tears trickled down her small face as she read the last sentence in the text. Yomi had just broken up on her, after 3months. Her 15th relationship so far.
Temi couldnt figure out what always made the guys leave. She was caring, responsible, and gave sex when it was needed. Talking body figure, she was a perfect 8; any guy’s perfect score of 10. Crying loudly, she decided to let pent up emotions flow.
Just then, her cellphone rang. On the 3rd ring, she picked it up. It was Kenny, her ”best friend”. Kenny sensed her dull voice and asked what the matter was. Unable to control her emotion, she burst into a wail.
There was no use pretending, Kenny knew how often boys dumped her. In fact, he had helped her through 6 of those breakups.
She and Kenny had been friends for as long as she could remember. He had asked her out once, but in her usual playful manner, she had waved it off as a joke.
They were so close her circle of friends even taunted her with his name. Others were of the notion they were dating…they were that close.
Pausing in her thoughts, it hit her that Kenny was more goodlooking than any of the guys she’d dated. He was mature, fun to be with and loaded with a lot of cash.
In fact, most girls threw themselves at him, but he wasnt one to fool around. He’d been dumped a few times too.
The problem was, Kenny was a friend to her, more like a brother. She didnt feel any attraction towards him…..

Kenny on the other end was lost in his thoughts. He loved Temi. He was very sure of that. It killed him everytime she got dumped. It depressed him even further when she found a new person….a potential mistake everytime. He had told her about his feelings once. But she never took him serious. He had thought being her friend would ease up things…but they only worsened the situation…..

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Sad, innit? Yet, we all have been through this at one time or the other. We like this person very much, yes. But the person doesnt reciprocate and to make things worse, they turn us into their brothers, sisters or best friends like the scengfario above.
To understand this phenomenon from different sides, i asked people what their opinions of the friendzone were. Thay had this to say:

@P.jay:its when u like a gurl and she only sees u as a nice friend. In the end, u end up helping her to choose a boyfriend.

@Mykel:its a situation when a girl only sees u as a non-sexual object maybe like a lamp.

@James Olokede.smeone who sees u as a non-sexual being.

@AK-Lee:a guy ure best friends with, u tell him all your secrets but u cannot kiss him.

@P.josh:its when u get fucking close to a girl and she starts to see u as a friend-slave.

Well well, there we are. Different views on the matter.

I’ll like to examine the topic from both sides tho(i.e the guys side and the girls side).
Most people are of the view that only guys can be friendzoned. Well, thats as true as saying Ozil was signed by Chelsea. Yea yea, u get the point am tryna make i hope.
Guys, as well as girls can be friendzoned.
Lets view this from the guys angle. Theres this girl; light-skinned, a wow-looker. Talk about anything a guy wants in a girl-shes got it. Plus, shes been showing signs she likes you. And then it happens! U dnt like her, in fact to u shes just a friend, nothing more. U even see her as you would see your sister. GBAM! You’ve friendzoned her.

Talking about the girls, i ave to admit we do it more often than the guys do. At this point, i feel compelled to paint a scenario.

****a few months ago, Tola met this guy. He was still the sweetest guy she’d ever met….lol. That time, she was being treated like crap by her ex. He was always there, offering a shoulder to cry on, taking her on dates wen she couldnt cook, coming to her rescue whenever her ex fucked up on hangouts etc. Before long, people started suspecting they were going out; including her ex. It gained her some level of hate tho-he was quite a great looker and a ladies-man.
It got so bad that she turned him to a machine where she dumped all her complains about her ex. When her bff asked her about him, she was like ”hes just a friend”. When they finally broke up, he was also there. Lol, Tola feltstupid when she remembered how hard shecried dat day, she soaked his shoulders! Lol
Even after the breakup, her eyes still dint open to see the boyfriend material in him. After a while, she started to really like him. Guess what happened…..one day, while he came visiting, he made a statement that made her almost cry. He said Ure like a sister to me! Hehe, serves her right abi? I know.

Well, all said and done, its been laid bare.
So, if ure a pro at friendzoning people, stop it o, stop it today! U never know if ure friendzoning ur future half o. Uhn uhn, i yaf said my own o, if u like hear, if u like ignore.

**curtains close**



Get over your Ex

Stop drowning your heart in more

Your heartless Ex is obviously
without you now. You don’t need
to try
over calling and texting him/her

Why crying over someone who
played with
your heart, body and wasted your
time. No
matter you cry, tears won’t bring
person back to your life. Come on
dry your
precious eyes because everything
will be
okay. He or she left, and without a
word or
without a sensible reason but life
goes on.

You ex left you to give room for
serious people to treat you better.

He or
she left you with bittersweet
but he or she gave you

Breathe and let go. Trying to talk
to him or
her, trying to figure out where
you went
wrong and wasting even more
time to
check up on your ex won’t do you

Try as much as you can and let go.
it hurts now and it will still hurt
later, but
stay strong and stay positive.

Don’t quickly
rush into a new relationship, first
yourself time, love yourself more
before and always get down to
your kneels
and pray to God to help you find a
genuine person who will love you
the way
you are. Don’t lose hope, don’t
yourself. You are so beautiful and
handsome, Just know that there
people out there heartbroken and
like you. They are also looking for
you and
they are praying to meet you one
day one
time. Don’t hope my dear friends,
someone will come into your life
and will
erase all those past hurting

Someone will see value in you,
will give you endless happiness,
will make a family with you and
will show you the true meaning of

Trust me you will be fine. The best
is not
so far from YOU.
*copied from @Jhan Cone


A recipe of mee:)

Loool dis is a silly one. But u see, u dnt avta be al cwiouz n straitfaced al d tym. Remember variety is d spice of life. One more tin, pardon ma tense, grammar n word spellings. Am not in d mood tpo b proper. Yes yes y’all(in Chris Brown’s voice)
Get ready a slim 5ft3 frame, mix wit a weight of 56kg. Add a lite skin colour with average lenght not-dat-black hair and churn very well.
Next, add an obsession 4 ice crim n chocolate, sprinkling a generous amount of taciturnity in the process. After a while, add a penchant 4 clothes, heels and the colour blue.
Set aside a steaming mug of a double personality(a side of introvert n a side of extrovert) to cool off on a cool temperament.
Prepare a paste of indecision and straightforwardness. Add a dash of sarcasm to a pint of snobbishness.
Pour 6 teaspoons of creativity, 4 tablespoons of friendliness and knead in a bowl of troublesome. After doing this, add a fun seeking personality to a gram of naughtiness.
Add NIMMIE to taste. Serve hot


♥what if….?♥

What if….?
God couldnt take the time to bless us today because we could not take the time to thank Him yesterday?

What if….?
God decided to stop leading us tomorrow because we didnt follow him today?

What if…?
God didnt walk with us today because we forgot to invite him yesterday?

What if…?
We never saw another flower bloom because we grumbled when God sent the rain…

What if…?
God stopped loving and caring for us because we failed to love and care for others…

What if…?
God took away the Bible tomorrow, because we would not read it today?

What if…?
God took away his message because we failed to listen to His messenger…

What if…?
God met our needs the way we give Him our lives…

What if…?
God didnt send his only begotten Son because He wanted us to pay the price of sin…

What if….?
God answers our prayers the way we answer His call to service…

What if…?
The door to the church was closed because we did not open the door ofour hearts…

What if….?
God decided to punish us for every mistake we made?

I Am Thankful

I am thankful i can walk;
There are those who have never taken their first step.

I am thankful i can see;
There are those whose world is always dark.

I am thankful i can hear music play;
There are those whose entire lives have been spent in silence.

I am thankful my heart can be broken;
There are those who are so hardened they cannot be touched.

I am thankful i can move about freely;
There are those who live in constant fear.

I am thankful i have been loved;
There are those who nobody cares about.

I am thankful i can work;
There are those who have to depend on others for even their most basic needs.

I am thankful for the opportunity to be educated;
There are about 75% of the world’s population that can neither read nor write.

I am thankful for my friends;
There are those who have never known friendship.

I am thankful i can gain weight;
There are those without an Adipose tissue.

I am thankful for my parents;
There are those who havent beeen blessed like that.

I am thankful i am ME;
There are carbon copies of celebrities all around.

I am thankful for life;
There are those who never had the opportunity.


the way it is….

Never stop believing cos dreams come true
I often wonder if this also works in our love life
Every girls dream is to end up with a tall handsome dude and
Every guy wants a beautiful and not too demanding kinda girl
But the fact remains, one can never choose who to fall in love with
And so we might just find ourselves helplessly in love with someone we never imagined
Nurture your dreams carefully but when change creeps in sometimes you don’t have to fight it
For it is not what you want that matters, it is what you need.
Never stop believing cos dreams come true
And always remember your destiny may have a better offer